You Don't Have a Girlfriend, So You Must Be Gay

In the Public Schools post, this writer talked about how people start focusing on sex as kids.  One of the things this writer pointed out is the idea the if you are screwing, you're gay.  Where did this mindset come from?  Who knows?

This writer remembers a girl in high school was obviously showing an interest in him.  She was fat and ugly, so being the shallow person he is, this writer politely rejected her advance.  The girl responded by calling this writer gay.  This writer didn't understand because there's no way this girl could have know that with any certainty.  No, this writer didn't have a girl on each arm, but he didn't have a boy on each arm either.

What this writer deduced is that this girl wasn't popular with the guys and that this writer was her last resort.  This writer also deduced that simply having standards meant he was gay.  The fact that he wouldn't just lay down with any old girl was enough to brand him a homosexual.  It didn't no matter if she was ugly, or stupid, or just an crappy person.

The point of such a tactic is to shame you out of your standards so that you'll settle for someone you aren't interested in.  This writer sees the results all the time.  You'll see this buff, good-looking guy with this sloppy, out shape woman and you say to yourself, "something about this doesn't look right."  Those guys were probably called gay and shamed out of their standards.  Then, to prove they are straight, they'll take that woman as theirs.  This writer hates to say it, but it's true.

This tactic is even utilized by family members.  For a whole years, this writer's uncle asked him him if he had a girlfriend.  When this writer said no, the uncle said, "You must be gay," or, "You gay?"  To an extent, this writer understands why an outsider might say something like that.  They are trying to get something.  But what would a family member get from seeing this writer with a woman?

On another note, this proves that while gay life is being pushed by the media, gays as a whole are still outcasts.  Why else would the word be used as an insult?  Just an observation from a straight male.

Until next time...