The writer has written about how to handle bad friends and not-so-bad friends who just don't work. But what if you're the one who's been jettisoned. There's no need to be sad or depressed. It's not always a bad thing to be kicked out of your clique or left out of the fun. Here's how to survive if it's you.
1. Realize That You Are That Guy
If you are a "bad friend" you have to come to terms with it. That doesn't mean you have to stay the bad friend. Just realize that you are, in fact, "that guy" that nobody wants to be around. What you do with that knowledge is up to you, but having that knowledge is the important part.
2. Ask If That Person Or Group Was Worth Your Time
Getting dumped for being the "bad friend" or "lame friend" isn't always a bad thing. Look back at the activities he/she/they were trying to make you do. We're they trying to make you do stuff that went against every fiber of your being? Maybe they wanted you to drink and you don't like drinking. Perhaps they wanted you to go somewhere you didn't want to go. Or perhaps they were trying to get you get up into some fuckshit and you didn't want any part of it. It's better to be a "bad friend" or "lame" than to get involved in things you don't like and/or don't want to try.
3. Learn From Past Mistakes
Why did your last friend or clique break up with you? Did you come off as too needy? Did you try to monopolize their time and not take their schedule into account? Did you fart too much? Maybe it was something else. Whatever it was, try to cut back on it (if you can help it) when the next person or clique picks you up or if (heaven forbid) the person/people who dumped you want to reconcile. If you can't help it and are a habitual loner then...
4. Be Able To Make Your Own Fun
Getting used to be alone is a part of the deal as the "bad friend", "lame guy", or the "unwanted person". Finding activities that don't require other people to enjoy is the way to cope with this reality. You ARE going to go through stretches where you will be all alone. Learning to enjoy your own company is how to handle those stretches until that new friend or clique comes around. Learn to fall back on these activities and you'll survive, no matter how many friends you lose or how often you lose them.
5. Learn To Understand Spoken And Body Language
When you make new friends, learn to read the mood. This is the most important thing you can do, so nasty breaks can be avoided. Listen to the words they use and the context in which they are used. Do they talk to you like you're stupid or does their speech seem like veiled insults? Do they slump their shoulders and/or walk away, pretending they didn't see you. Do they seem to lack the vigor or energy they have with others when you come by? These are signs that they don't want to be around you and you should never talk to these people again if you notice these thing. This writer has seen people get cussed out and even punched out because they either didn't see these signs or ignored them and continued to impose on the person. Don't be someone like that. Understand what's being said and (just as importantly) what's being shown before or things could get ugly.
6. Learn To Love Yourself And Be Willing To Stand Alone
As sort of an extension of Point 2, sometimes you have to stand alone on your own principles. Be willing to go against your friend or friends. Don't just go along with them just for the sake of not being lonely. This is especially important if you see them headed into a potentially dangerous situation because it can save your life. Someone who doesn't love themselves can easily be swayed, talked into, or maneuvered into doing anything. Don't be that person. Love yourself, have some standards, and don't be afraid of being alone.
Whether you try to fix what made you a "bad" or "lame" friend or embrace the isolation, make sure you are happy and/or having fun. It doesn't matter how many friends you have if you're miserable or have to compromise yourself to the point where you're unhappy to keep them. You should also expect the same from them. Don't force yourself on people who don't want to be around you. That is the single best thing a "bad friend" or "unwanted person" can do.
Above all, remember that you WILL be fine by yourself. You will get more chances to get friends, but even if you blow those chances or don't get them that doesn't mean you have to be miserable.
Until next time...
Tuesday, December 12, 2017
Saturday, October 21, 2017
Questions To Ask Yourself When Breaking It Off
Bad friends are bad friends no matter how you look at it. These people drain your time, your mental health, and even your wallet if you let them. As this writer mentioned in a previous post, you should separate yourself from these individuals as soon as you can. Some may be reluctant to do so, for various reasons. These are seven questions you should ask yourself when deciding whether or not to call it quits on a friend.
1. Do I Even Like This Person?
You only have so much time on this world. Why spend it with someone you don't even like? It's a total waste of the most precious resource you have. It's kind of like a business exchange. You pay currency (your time in this case) for a product or service (the person's presence). Normally, if you get a product or service you don't like, you attempt to get your money back, right? Well, you can't get a refund on your time. All you can do is realize you've wasted it on this person and not waste anymore of it on them.
2. Why Don't We Ever Do Anything I Want To Do?
This writer recently as himself this question after conversing with a former friend. The person in question kept talking about making this writer do things he didn't want to do. He talked about things like making this writer drink alcohol, having sex with prostitutes, and going to Las Vegas. After the conversation ended, this writer said to himself, "Why is this guy trying to make me do all these things I don't want to do?" To clarify things, this writer was being asked to do things he didn't want to do and go to places he didn't want to with someone he barely liked. If that doesn't sound like a complete waste of time, what does? Fortunately, this writer broke it off before any of that happened.
3. Why Is Everything I Do Wrong?
You know that "friend" who questions everything you do? You want to get promoted at your job? He'll be there to say, "You don't need a promotion. You're doing fine." Want to have a piece of cake. Here he comes to say, "This stuff is bad for you. So much sugar," while asking you for a piece. In simpler terms, he's the guy that doesn't want you to enjoy anything he's not a part of or experience anything good if he doesn't make it happen. This could be for one of two reasons. First, he could be a looking for someone to be a lackey to keep beneath them. Secondly, he could be a loser who never accomplished anything and doesn't want you to accomplish anything either. If your friend wants to hold you back or monopolize your time so you can't do anything but be around them, break it off IMMEDIATELY. This person means you no good.
4. Is This Person Trying To Piss Me Off?
This is sort of an extension of the last question. The only thing worse than having everything you do criticized and/or all your time monopolized is when you know the person knows he or she is being a prick. For whatever reason, this person keeps trying to stress you out. Maybe it's an attempt to overcome their own inferiority complex or maybe they are just trying to make you feel as empty as they do, but people like this mean you no good. The only thing they do is bring undue stress on you. There's no reason to take on a burden like that. Get rid of them if you can.
5. Why Do I Feel So Tired After Dealing With This Person?
That's the feeling of your sanity and soul being drained. Some people are naturally energy vampires and not good to interact with. They're not necessarily bad people, they're just no fun to be around. If you find yourself saying, "I hope he didn't see me," or "oh crap, he saw me," that's a warning to yourself of the soul-sucking to come. In extreme case, simply seeing the person will sap all your strength. The sad part is that you can't even enjoy things you like with this person hanging around. You should NEVER feel drained after dealing with REAL friends, even after you've had an intense debate. Try to avoid people like this if you can.
6. He Knows I'm Not Gay...Right?
This writer once had a really friend who was really macho. All he talked about was how much sex he use to have when he was in college (he's an older guy). So, it came as a surprise when we were talking one day and he stroked this writer's arm and asked, "Does this turn you on?" After this writer said no, the man then asked, "What if I grabbed your dick?" This writer burst into laughter because he couldn't believe what he was hearing and turned to walk away. Seeing this writer's clear lack of interest, he said (all while not laughing or smiling), "I was just playing. I just do that to see if someone is gay? You have a sense of humor, right?" What "straight" man plays like that with another man, especially one who has clearly stated in the past that he's not gay? Simply put, if your friend doesn't know what boundaries are, RUN!
7. What Am I Getting Out Of This Friendship?
If you break it off with this person, will you miss them? Think seriously and deeply about the answer you come up with. If so, what will you miss most? Put another way, are this person's positives worth dealing with their BS to keep them around.
Obviously, these aren't the only questions you can ask, but the answers are what matter. The most important thing is to be honest with both yourself and your friend. If you don't like or want to be around the person and try to hide it, they WILL eventually come out. Tell the person the moment you figure out the answers. Clearly and calmly state the issue. That way you won't waste as much time on a relationship that isn't working and feelings on both sides won't be as hostile when (or if) the break happens.
Until next time...
1. Do I Even Like This Person?
You only have so much time on this world. Why spend it with someone you don't even like? It's a total waste of the most precious resource you have. It's kind of like a business exchange. You pay currency (your time in this case) for a product or service (the person's presence). Normally, if you get a product or service you don't like, you attempt to get your money back, right? Well, you can't get a refund on your time. All you can do is realize you've wasted it on this person and not waste anymore of it on them.
2. Why Don't We Ever Do Anything I Want To Do?
This writer recently as himself this question after conversing with a former friend. The person in question kept talking about making this writer do things he didn't want to do. He talked about things like making this writer drink alcohol, having sex with prostitutes, and going to Las Vegas. After the conversation ended, this writer said to himself, "Why is this guy trying to make me do all these things I don't want to do?" To clarify things, this writer was being asked to do things he didn't want to do and go to places he didn't want to with someone he barely liked. If that doesn't sound like a complete waste of time, what does? Fortunately, this writer broke it off before any of that happened.
3. Why Is Everything I Do Wrong?
You know that "friend" who questions everything you do? You want to get promoted at your job? He'll be there to say, "You don't need a promotion. You're doing fine." Want to have a piece of cake. Here he comes to say, "This stuff is bad for you. So much sugar," while asking you for a piece. In simpler terms, he's the guy that doesn't want you to enjoy anything he's not a part of or experience anything good if he doesn't make it happen. This could be for one of two reasons. First, he could be a looking for someone to be a lackey to keep beneath them. Secondly, he could be a loser who never accomplished anything and doesn't want you to accomplish anything either. If your friend wants to hold you back or monopolize your time so you can't do anything but be around them, break it off IMMEDIATELY. This person means you no good.
4. Is This Person Trying To Piss Me Off?
This is sort of an extension of the last question. The only thing worse than having everything you do criticized and/or all your time monopolized is when you know the person knows he or she is being a prick. For whatever reason, this person keeps trying to stress you out. Maybe it's an attempt to overcome their own inferiority complex or maybe they are just trying to make you feel as empty as they do, but people like this mean you no good. The only thing they do is bring undue stress on you. There's no reason to take on a burden like that. Get rid of them if you can.
5. Why Do I Feel So Tired After Dealing With This Person?
That's the feeling of your sanity and soul being drained. Some people are naturally energy vampires and not good to interact with. They're not necessarily bad people, they're just no fun to be around. If you find yourself saying, "I hope he didn't see me," or "oh crap, he saw me," that's a warning to yourself of the soul-sucking to come. In extreme case, simply seeing the person will sap all your strength. The sad part is that you can't even enjoy things you like with this person hanging around. You should NEVER feel drained after dealing with REAL friends, even after you've had an intense debate. Try to avoid people like this if you can.
6. He Knows I'm Not Gay...Right?
This writer once had a really friend who was really macho. All he talked about was how much sex he use to have when he was in college (he's an older guy). So, it came as a surprise when we were talking one day and he stroked this writer's arm and asked, "Does this turn you on?" After this writer said no, the man then asked, "What if I grabbed your dick?" This writer burst into laughter because he couldn't believe what he was hearing and turned to walk away. Seeing this writer's clear lack of interest, he said (all while not laughing or smiling), "I was just playing. I just do that to see if someone is gay? You have a sense of humor, right?" What "straight" man plays like that with another man, especially one who has clearly stated in the past that he's not gay? Simply put, if your friend doesn't know what boundaries are, RUN!
7. What Am I Getting Out Of This Friendship?
If you break it off with this person, will you miss them? Think seriously and deeply about the answer you come up with. If so, what will you miss most? Put another way, are this person's positives worth dealing with their BS to keep them around.
Obviously, these aren't the only questions you can ask, but the answers are what matter. The most important thing is to be honest with both yourself and your friend. If you don't like or want to be around the person and try to hide it, they WILL eventually come out. Tell the person the moment you figure out the answers. Clearly and calmly state the issue. That way you won't waste as much time on a relationship that isn't working and feelings on both sides won't be as hostile when (or if) the break happens.
Until next time...
Sunday, October 1, 2017
Homemade Bullstuff: Bad Slogans
Everyday, we go places and use product that we see. A good slogan can make all the difference between getting loyal consumers and people not going into your establishment or using your products. Here go some slogans (fake of course) that could have ruined some brands.
1. La Croix
2. Reese's Peanut Butter Cups
3. Schwinn
4. RC Cola
5. Coca Cola
1. La Croix
La Croix. The crisp, cool taste of garbage water.
Reese's. Serving heart attacks one cup at a time.
Schwinn. Making shitty products since 1895.
RC Cola. Couldn't afford Pepsi, huh?
Cola Coca. Stop complaining, it's supposed to taste flat.
6. Little Debbie's Nutty Buddies
Nutty Buddies. When you gotta have the taste of nuts in your mouth.
7. Glaceau Smart Water
Smart Water. You can't be that smart if you're buying water.
8. McDonald's
9. Prairie Farms Fruit Punch Drink
10. Little Caesar's Pizza
McDonald's. Huh? What? I'm lovin' this?
Prairie Farms. So good, you can't taste it.
Little Caesar's. Made for dogs. Consumed by humans.
Well, there goes some homemade BS. Hope you had as much fun reading it as the writer did making it.
Until next time...
Sunday, September 17, 2017
So-Called Straight People
On one hand, you have straight people. On the other hand, you have gay people. On yet another hand, you have straight people who say gay stuff as an insult. There's nothing more confusing than when a "straight person" says the gayest crap in the history of the world.
For example, there's a popular insult where someone bellows, "kiss my ass!" Where did this come from and how is it an insult is beyond this writer's comprehension. But it sounds powerful and is funny, so the "logic" can be overlooked.
There is another insult, however, that simply defies logic. That's when a man tells another man to suck his "sex organ". This writer only has one question. Why, just why would a supposedly straight man get mad another man and tell him to suck his "sex organ"? Just how mad do you have to be where you're telling other men to perform oral sex on you? How do you, as a straight man, reach into the deep recesses of your mind and pull out that gayest thing you can say and believe it's a valid insult? This is where thinking before you speak could be useful. Play out the scenario in your mind a say to yourself, "this doesn't exactly sound straight," before you belch out something like this. For the record, this writer has never told another man to suck his "thing" in anger.
As disturbing as it is for a "straight man" to tell a man to suck his "sex organ", it's even more disturbing when a woman says it. This writer has actually heard members of the "fairer sex" get mad at someone and tell them to suck their "male sex organ". Yep. WOMEN are now telling people to suck their "MALE sex organ". WTF, women? But then again, with the transgender movement catching fire, a few women may actually have a "male sex organ" to suck. As a straight male it's scary to hear women (you know, those gentle creatures who can do no wrong) speak like this because some of them may really be men in disguise.
What's the point? This writer simply wants to know when it because okay for straight people to talk like that to each other. It's disgusting, cringy, and just plain doesn't make sense for straight people to be talking like that. Maybe this is what happens when you kick father's out of the house or put him in a position of weakness, because a strong father would tell his kids to stop talking like that. That's an issue for another time though, so this writer will keep things short and end it here.
Until next time...
For example, there's a popular insult where someone bellows, "kiss my ass!" Where did this come from and how is it an insult is beyond this writer's comprehension. But it sounds powerful and is funny, so the "logic" can be overlooked.
There is another insult, however, that simply defies logic. That's when a man tells another man to suck his "sex organ". This writer only has one question. Why, just why would a supposedly straight man get mad another man and tell him to suck his "sex organ"? Just how mad do you have to be where you're telling other men to perform oral sex on you? How do you, as a straight man, reach into the deep recesses of your mind and pull out that gayest thing you can say and believe it's a valid insult? This is where thinking before you speak could be useful. Play out the scenario in your mind a say to yourself, "this doesn't exactly sound straight," before you belch out something like this. For the record, this writer has never told another man to suck his "thing" in anger.
As disturbing as it is for a "straight man" to tell a man to suck his "sex organ", it's even more disturbing when a woman says it. This writer has actually heard members of the "fairer sex" get mad at someone and tell them to suck their "male sex organ". Yep. WOMEN are now telling people to suck their "MALE sex organ". WTF, women? But then again, with the transgender movement catching fire, a few women may actually have a "male sex organ" to suck. As a straight male it's scary to hear women (you know, those gentle creatures who can do no wrong) speak like this because some of them may really be men in disguise.
What's the point? This writer simply wants to know when it because okay for straight people to talk like that to each other. It's disgusting, cringy, and just plain doesn't make sense for straight people to be talking like that. Maybe this is what happens when you kick father's out of the house or put him in a position of weakness, because a strong father would tell his kids to stop talking like that. That's an issue for another time though, so this writer will keep things short and end it here.
Until next time...
Wednesday, September 6, 2017
Terrible Friends
Everybody's had at least one friend that they didn't want. You'll just be going about your day and then you'll see that person and say to yourself, "Aww, crap! Maybe he didn't see me. I can still escape." Then you find out he did see you and you can't escape. For then on, you're in for a night of talking to a needy, overbearing burden. Surely this writer isn't alone. Right?
This writer has had several terrible friends. For example, there was this one friend who simply wouldn't stop talking. This writer doesn't mean that guy who you can't get away from because he always has something to say. No, this writer means the guy who talks in run-on sentences. They simply don't take a breath, leaving you no place to jump in, hench you can't have a real conversation. It just makes you want to say, "Shut up and let me address the first point you made." It's gets to the point where you don't want to talk to them. To add insult to injury, they like to talk close to you. This might make you want to say, "I'm not your gay lover. I don't need to look longingly into your eyes to hear you. Give me a few inches of space."
Then you have the guy who wants to hog all your stuff while not buying their own. The writer remembers a friend who would seek him out and use his laptop to do dumb searches that this writer wasn't interested in. That fact alone wasn't so bad. The bad part is that they took up all this writer's time with these searches, which kept this writer from writing. This writer eventually had to say, "I got this computer so I could write blog entries, not see who Janet Jackson is screwing. I don't about this crap you're showing me. Buy your own." Dealing with this guy was so draining, two hours of interacting with him was like putting in a sixteen hour shift at work. It was that bad.
There's almost the friend whose suspect. He insists he's not gay, all while saying the gayest stuff in the history of mankind. There was this one guy who said he was going to make this writer have sex with a prostitute. He then went on to say he wanted to watch, listen to this writer scream out with pleasure, and watch this writer walk around in a bathrobe. Keep in mind, this was a "straight" male saying some stuff that bordered on male rape. Over the years, this writer has talked to a number of males and has not come across ANY straight male who talks like that. Yeah...good riddance to this pervert.
Finally, there is the controlling friend. You know, that guy who wants to control every aspect of your life. This writer had a friend who tried to dictate everything he did. As if that wasn't bad enough, this guy got angry when this writer simply said he was a fan of the Detroit Pistons. That's right. Simply being a Pistons fan was enough to make him angry. Needless to say, this writer got out of this ludicrous arrangement pretty quickly.
So, as you can see, not all friends are good. Some "friends" can be downright toxic. Some people hang on to these "friends" because they themselves are so desperate for friends, they will suffer for years just to say they have some. Personally, this writer felt relieved when he shed these viruses disguising themselves as "friends". It's no exaggeration to say that this writer would rather spend the rest of his life alone in Antarctica than spend five minutes with these individuals again.
In the end, don't try to be friends with everyone, because not everyone is worth being friends with. Also, if you have bad friends, don't be afraid to rid yourself of them. It's not always that they are bad people, just a bad fit for you. You'll feel a lot better mentally and physically. And no, it's not about hurting people's feelings. Admittedly, their feelings may or may not get hurt when you break it off, but why should you have to suffer to prevent that? You don't have to live with them, but you do have to live with yourself. If you're suffering because this person is a pain, why would you want to live with that?
Until next time...
This writer has had several terrible friends. For example, there was this one friend who simply wouldn't stop talking. This writer doesn't mean that guy who you can't get away from because he always has something to say. No, this writer means the guy who talks in run-on sentences. They simply don't take a breath, leaving you no place to jump in, hench you can't have a real conversation. It just makes you want to say, "Shut up and let me address the first point you made." It's gets to the point where you don't want to talk to them. To add insult to injury, they like to talk close to you. This might make you want to say, "I'm not your gay lover. I don't need to look longingly into your eyes to hear you. Give me a few inches of space."
Then you have the guy who wants to hog all your stuff while not buying their own. The writer remembers a friend who would seek him out and use his laptop to do dumb searches that this writer wasn't interested in. That fact alone wasn't so bad. The bad part is that they took up all this writer's time with these searches, which kept this writer from writing. This writer eventually had to say, "I got this computer so I could write blog entries, not see who Janet Jackson is screwing. I don't about this crap you're showing me. Buy your own." Dealing with this guy was so draining, two hours of interacting with him was like putting in a sixteen hour shift at work. It was that bad.
There's almost the friend whose suspect. He insists he's not gay, all while saying the gayest stuff in the history of mankind. There was this one guy who said he was going to make this writer have sex with a prostitute. He then went on to say he wanted to watch, listen to this writer scream out with pleasure, and watch this writer walk around in a bathrobe. Keep in mind, this was a "straight" male saying some stuff that bordered on male rape. Over the years, this writer has talked to a number of males and has not come across ANY straight male who talks like that. Yeah...good riddance to this pervert.
Finally, there is the controlling friend. You know, that guy who wants to control every aspect of your life. This writer had a friend who tried to dictate everything he did. As if that wasn't bad enough, this guy got angry when this writer simply said he was a fan of the Detroit Pistons. That's right. Simply being a Pistons fan was enough to make him angry. Needless to say, this writer got out of this ludicrous arrangement pretty quickly.
So, as you can see, not all friends are good. Some "friends" can be downright toxic. Some people hang on to these "friends" because they themselves are so desperate for friends, they will suffer for years just to say they have some. Personally, this writer felt relieved when he shed these viruses disguising themselves as "friends". It's no exaggeration to say that this writer would rather spend the rest of his life alone in Antarctica than spend five minutes with these individuals again.
In the end, don't try to be friends with everyone, because not everyone is worth being friends with. Also, if you have bad friends, don't be afraid to rid yourself of them. It's not always that they are bad people, just a bad fit for you. You'll feel a lot better mentally and physically. And no, it's not about hurting people's feelings. Admittedly, their feelings may or may not get hurt when you break it off, but why should you have to suffer to prevent that? You don't have to live with them, but you do have to live with yourself. If you're suffering because this person is a pain, why would you want to live with that?
Until next time...
Saturday, July 1, 2017
5 Tips For Dealing With Bullies
For those who have been reading these entries, it's well-known that this writer has a hatred for bullies. It's also known that this writer believes that while there are many solutions, nothing works quite as well as a big, meaty fist to the face. Some of you may be fighters, some of you may not be. No matter what type of person you are, these are some essentials to dealing with bullies.
1. Don't Let Them See You Cry
To clarify, this doesn't mean not to cry. Just don't let them see it. A bully's whole goal is to see you hurting. Seeing you cry will make his or her day and encourage them to continue. In a classroom setting, this can encourage other people to pile on and suddenly you have more than one bully to deal with. Obviously, this is not what you want. Save the tears until you get home, to some secluded place, or around people who genuine care about you. You don't want to risk realizing that no one cares about your pain by crying in public.
2. Get A Hobby
Everyone needs an escape. Yes, eventually you'll have to deal with the bully, but you don't want to be thinking about him or her from school, work, or church (yes, church). You have a life. Live it and forget about the bully until you're ready to deal with them. And when this writer says forget about them, he means FORGET. Their already taking up too much of your physical space. Don't let them take up any of your mental space.
3. Get Some Courage
Bullies are devils who feast on fear. Give yourself a dose of vitamin C (or courage) and they will starve. A confrontation doesn't have to result in a fight. A simple warning will do. Don't come with an emotional fire. Be dispassionate and use a cold delivery. This will discourage future attacks because you'll give the illusion of unpredictability.
4. Reverse The Hurt
If the bully simply won't stop, try bullying them. You're attacks should be swift, cold, and without warning or mercy. Keep in mind that you're not trying to enjoy this, because you risk morphing into a bully yourself. Instead, the goal is to make them realize that it don't feel good to be picked on every day. Match them blow for blow and eventually they'll want to negotiate and/or give up. Remember to be cold, because you don't want to become what you're fighting against.
5. Have At Least Two Real Friends
Numbers can dissuade a fight. If you have the charisma, win over two real friends (emphasis on the word 'real') who you can trust. The bully isn't going to want to risk taking a three-on-one ass-whuppin' just to get at you. However, DO NOT provoke a fight just because you have friends, because (just like tip 4) you risk becoming a bully yourself. The goal is to defend yourself, not be a two-bit gangster.
So there you have it. Five tips to deal with bullies without fighting. Using intellect and keeping your emotions in check is always preferable to swinging fists. But if intellect fails, you do still have your fists.
Until next time...
1. Don't Let Them See You Cry
To clarify, this doesn't mean not to cry. Just don't let them see it. A bully's whole goal is to see you hurting. Seeing you cry will make his or her day and encourage them to continue. In a classroom setting, this can encourage other people to pile on and suddenly you have more than one bully to deal with. Obviously, this is not what you want. Save the tears until you get home, to some secluded place, or around people who genuine care about you. You don't want to risk realizing that no one cares about your pain by crying in public.
2. Get A Hobby
Everyone needs an escape. Yes, eventually you'll have to deal with the bully, but you don't want to be thinking about him or her from school, work, or church (yes, church). You have a life. Live it and forget about the bully until you're ready to deal with them. And when this writer says forget about them, he means FORGET. Their already taking up too much of your physical space. Don't let them take up any of your mental space.
3. Get Some Courage
Bullies are devils who feast on fear. Give yourself a dose of vitamin C (or courage) and they will starve. A confrontation doesn't have to result in a fight. A simple warning will do. Don't come with an emotional fire. Be dispassionate and use a cold delivery. This will discourage future attacks because you'll give the illusion of unpredictability.
4. Reverse The Hurt
If the bully simply won't stop, try bullying them. You're attacks should be swift, cold, and without warning or mercy. Keep in mind that you're not trying to enjoy this, because you risk morphing into a bully yourself. Instead, the goal is to make them realize that it don't feel good to be picked on every day. Match them blow for blow and eventually they'll want to negotiate and/or give up. Remember to be cold, because you don't want to become what you're fighting against.
5. Have At Least Two Real Friends
Numbers can dissuade a fight. If you have the charisma, win over two real friends (emphasis on the word 'real') who you can trust. The bully isn't going to want to risk taking a three-on-one ass-whuppin' just to get at you. However, DO NOT provoke a fight just because you have friends, because (just like tip 4) you risk becoming a bully yourself. The goal is to defend yourself, not be a two-bit gangster.
So there you have it. Five tips to deal with bullies without fighting. Using intellect and keeping your emotions in check is always preferable to swinging fists. But if intellect fails, you do still have your fists.
Until next time...
Saturday, June 24, 2017
Problems With Bikes
Sometimes, it's harder avoiding taking the bus than it is being a Pistons fan. Cars are a huge investment, walking can't always get you to your destination fast enough, and this writer doesn't trust rollerblades or skateboards. That leaves bikes.
Bikes are a nice method of transportation. What could be better than taking in the scenery with the wind blowing through your hair at low to medium speed? Whether on the way to work or on a casual stroll, a bike ride can be rewarding, especially when the weather is good. However, as with any method of travel, bikes have their disadvantages as well.
First, there is the afformentioned weather. When it sucks, biking is tough. When it really sucks, there won't be any biking that day (or that week if you're particularly unlucky). Winter is especially crappy because good weather or not, if the snow is too deep, you're not riding unless you have one of those special bikes with the big tires. This is a problem if can't catch bus you need to be on time to work. If that happens when the weather is good, you simply shrug your shoulders, hop on your bike, and still be on time. In the Winter, the difference between being twenty minutes early or five minutes late can literally come down to seconds. This writer has seen the bus whiz past a stop, only to see a person chasing down the bus in vain. This writer has been that person a few times.
Also, bikes themselves aren't all sunshine. Tires go flat, chains pop, gears don't shift, dogs give chase, and motorists with road rage aren't your friend. The dogs can be fun blow past as they bark and set on a hopeless chase...if he's too slow to catch you, that is. Flat tires are just an irritant, especially if you discover it before you head off to work. Chains that pop are an irritant before work, because if you aren't prepared, you have to go into work with fierce grease stains on your hands. As for the motorists...remember, they have the big hulking hummer and you may be just one collision away from playing wheelchair basketball.
The most troublesome problem with bikes isn't being chased by dogs, dumb drivers, or even flat tires. No. The winner of that dubious award goes to bike locks. Yep. They can keep your bike safe. However, sometimes they keep your bikes too safe or not safe enough. Cable locks, for example are a wait of money, plain and simple. Anyone who needs a new bike and has a pair of bolt cutters handy can simply take your bike. Having lost at least five bikes to thieves, this writer speaks from experience when he says cable locks blow. Just don't buy them.
U-locks on the other hand, will keep your bike safe. Even from you. U-locks are nice until they seize up and refuse to unlock. You'll learn colorful new words and experience new levels of anger as you attempt to get the lock off. It's hard, but it can be done. A quick trip to the supermarket will solve problem, as long as you make sure to come back with a hammer and an electronics duster (thank God for You Tube). WTF? You shouldn't have to be MacGuyver just to give the lock off your bike.
When it comes to u-locks, the grand champion of crap is Schwinn. Seriously, this writer has been through four Schwinn u-locks in the past four months because they simply chose not to work. One stopped working after two days. TWO LOUSY DAYS. Put simply, when you buy a Schwinn lock, you've just bought a piece of Schwitt. WTF Schwinn?
Bikes are a nice method of transportation. What could be better than taking in the scenery with the wind blowing through your hair at low to medium speed? Whether on the way to work or on a casual stroll, a bike ride can be rewarding, especially when the weather is good. However, as with any method of travel, bikes have their disadvantages as well.
First, there is the afformentioned weather. When it sucks, biking is tough. When it really sucks, there won't be any biking that day (or that week if you're particularly unlucky). Winter is especially crappy because good weather or not, if the snow is too deep, you're not riding unless you have one of those special bikes with the big tires. This is a problem if can't catch bus you need to be on time to work. If that happens when the weather is good, you simply shrug your shoulders, hop on your bike, and still be on time. In the Winter, the difference between being twenty minutes early or five minutes late can literally come down to seconds. This writer has seen the bus whiz past a stop, only to see a person chasing down the bus in vain. This writer has been that person a few times.
Also, bikes themselves aren't all sunshine. Tires go flat, chains pop, gears don't shift, dogs give chase, and motorists with road rage aren't your friend. The dogs can be fun blow past as they bark and set on a hopeless chase...if he's too slow to catch you, that is. Flat tires are just an irritant, especially if you discover it before you head off to work. Chains that pop are an irritant before work, because if you aren't prepared, you have to go into work with fierce grease stains on your hands. As for the motorists...remember, they have the big hulking hummer and you may be just one collision away from playing wheelchair basketball.
The most troublesome problem with bikes isn't being chased by dogs, dumb drivers, or even flat tires. No. The winner of that dubious award goes to bike locks. Yep. They can keep your bike safe. However, sometimes they keep your bikes too safe or not safe enough. Cable locks, for example are a wait of money, plain and simple. Anyone who needs a new bike and has a pair of bolt cutters handy can simply take your bike. Having lost at least five bikes to thieves, this writer speaks from experience when he says cable locks blow. Just don't buy them.
U-locks on the other hand, will keep your bike safe. Even from you. U-locks are nice until they seize up and refuse to unlock. You'll learn colorful new words and experience new levels of anger as you attempt to get the lock off. It's hard, but it can be done. A quick trip to the supermarket will solve problem, as long as you make sure to come back with a hammer and an electronics duster (thank God for You Tube). WTF? You shouldn't have to be MacGuyver just to give the lock off your bike.
When it comes to u-locks, the grand champion of crap is Schwinn. Seriously, this writer has been through four Schwinn u-locks in the past four months because they simply chose not to work. One stopped working after two days. TWO LOUSY DAYS. Put simply, when you buy a Schwinn lock, you've just bought a piece of Schwitt. WTF Schwinn?
Schwinn is just a long way to spell "shit"
Where's the rest of this key?
Oh, there it is.
Yes bikes are great, but they come with their fair share of BS. All you can do is be prepared for when it shows up. If not, you may have walk or (even worse) take the bus.
Until next time...
Wednesday, May 31, 2017
Why?
Why do some people claim racism is a thing of the past,
When we can still see it as plain as day?
Why do some people call others devil,
While continuing to live and work around them?
Why does your boss demand you have a college degree,
When they are a high school dropout?
Why is a 35-year old man considered to be in his prime,
Yet a 35 year old women is considered past hers?
Why are ISIS and Al-Qaeda considered terrorist groups,
Yet the Ku Klux Klan, Neo Nazis, and Skinheads aren't?
Why do people claim All Lives Matter,
Yet those same people cheer and dance when a Black man is shot and killed?
Why is it okay for Jews and Native Americans to receive reparations,
But it's wrong for Blacks to get them?
Why do people confuse being pro-Black,
With being anti-American or anti-Semetic?
Why are actors and pro athletes treated like gods,
While war veterans are treated like less than garbage?
Why is American Politics a two-party system,
When both those parties suck?
Why is are the Presidential candidates a choice between the lesser of two evils,
Rather than who would actually a good make President?
Why is guilt or innocence a matter of public opinion,
When it should be a matter of proof and facts?
Why does national news media push agendas and distortions,
Instead of spreading the truth?
Why do we divide ourselves into racial groups,
Instead of coming together as one human race?
Why can't we call out bull stuff,
No matter who does it?
Why do we protect and support the pureyors of bull stuff,
Just because they may look and sound like us?
Why can't we all just,
Wake up and smell the bull stuff?
When we can still see it as plain as day?
Why do some people call others devil,
While continuing to live and work around them?
Why does your boss demand you have a college degree,
When they are a high school dropout?
Why is a 35-year old man considered to be in his prime,
Yet a 35 year old women is considered past hers?
Why are ISIS and Al-Qaeda considered terrorist groups,
Yet the Ku Klux Klan, Neo Nazis, and Skinheads aren't?
Why do people claim All Lives Matter,
Yet those same people cheer and dance when a Black man is shot and killed?
Why is it okay for Jews and Native Americans to receive reparations,
But it's wrong for Blacks to get them?
Why do people confuse being pro-Black,
With being anti-American or anti-Semetic?
Why are actors and pro athletes treated like gods,
While war veterans are treated like less than garbage?
Why is American Politics a two-party system,
When both those parties suck?
Why is are the Presidential candidates a choice between the lesser of two evils,
Rather than who would actually a good make President?
Why is guilt or innocence a matter of public opinion,
When it should be a matter of proof and facts?
Why does national news media push agendas and distortions,
Instead of spreading the truth?
Why do we divide ourselves into racial groups,
Instead of coming together as one human race?
Why can't we call out bull stuff,
No matter who does it?
Why do we protect and support the pureyors of bull stuff,
Just because they may look and sound like us?
Why can't we all just,
Wake up and smell the bull stuff?
Sunday, April 23, 2017
The Detroit Pistons
Well, the NBA playoffs are underway. Guess who's not there. Sigh. It's not always easy being a basketball (or sports in general) fan in Michigan.
Let's go back to last season. After several years of mediocrity, the Pistons made the playoffs. They drew the powerful Cleveland Cavaliers in the first rounbd, led by the mighty Lebron James. While the Pistons had no chance to win, they went down swinging, getting swept in four highly competitive games. Yes, they lost, but us hungry fans appreciated the effort and proudly called ourselves fans. We had a team of young up-and-comers, led by a beast of a center in Andre Drummond and an electrifying point guard in Reggie Jackson.
Returning to this season, we were optimistic, even though Jackson was down for roughly twenty to thirty games. All they had to do was had to do was stay around they .500 mark and they'd have a chance. And guess what. Somehow, some way, they did it. When Jackson came back, the Pistons we're a little over .500, so things could only go up. Right?
No. In fact, that when the season started swirling down the toilet. Yes, fans knew there would be an adjustment period, but things went horrible. It seemed the season was lost.
Then, out of nowehre, the Pistons got hot started winning games. The season was saved. They looked like they would recover and finish as the sixth seed in the Eastern Conference. Hooray! Detroit basketball was back.
But then (you knew it was coming) when the final 15 games of the season rolled around they unexplicably started losing games. They weren't losing to elite teams either, but to garbage teams such as the Orlanda Magic, the New York Knicks, and the embarassingly bad Brooklyn Nets, among other sad teams. The season was over for them in those last 15 games. Even the coach couldn't explain such an epic collapse. WTF Pistons?
A lot of people have theories as to what went wrong this season. Maybe the shooting guard shoots to much. Maybe Jackson wasn't healthy. Maybe Drummond is an overpaid, heartless pushover. Maybe the coach doesn't know what he's doing. All these things and more were tossed around like monkey dung. The one thing nobody was afraid to say is that the team as a whole is immature, lacks discipline, and (most importantly) just isn't very good.
So how can they right the ship? This writer is a fan of Drummond, Jackson and various other Piston players that weren't mentioned, but perhaps one of them needs to be traded even though this writer would hate to see them go. Perhaps Henry Ellenson and Michael Gbinjie (both good players who bring a lot to the table) could play more. Some have suggested a coaching change. Whatever they do, this writer will be watching and listening, because even though they are bad, he's still a Piston fan first and foremost.
Unitil next time...
Let's go back to last season. After several years of mediocrity, the Pistons made the playoffs. They drew the powerful Cleveland Cavaliers in the first rounbd, led by the mighty Lebron James. While the Pistons had no chance to win, they went down swinging, getting swept in four highly competitive games. Yes, they lost, but us hungry fans appreciated the effort and proudly called ourselves fans. We had a team of young up-and-comers, led by a beast of a center in Andre Drummond and an electrifying point guard in Reggie Jackson.
Returning to this season, we were optimistic, even though Jackson was down for roughly twenty to thirty games. All they had to do was had to do was stay around they .500 mark and they'd have a chance. And guess what. Somehow, some way, they did it. When Jackson came back, the Pistons we're a little over .500, so things could only go up. Right?
No. In fact, that when the season started swirling down the toilet. Yes, fans knew there would be an adjustment period, but things went horrible. It seemed the season was lost.
Then, out of nowehre, the Pistons got hot started winning games. The season was saved. They looked like they would recover and finish as the sixth seed in the Eastern Conference. Hooray! Detroit basketball was back.
But then (you knew it was coming) when the final 15 games of the season rolled around they unexplicably started losing games. They weren't losing to elite teams either, but to garbage teams such as the Orlanda Magic, the New York Knicks, and the embarassingly bad Brooklyn Nets, among other sad teams. The season was over for them in those last 15 games. Even the coach couldn't explain such an epic collapse. WTF Pistons?
A lot of people have theories as to what went wrong this season. Maybe the shooting guard shoots to much. Maybe Jackson wasn't healthy. Maybe Drummond is an overpaid, heartless pushover. Maybe the coach doesn't know what he's doing. All these things and more were tossed around like monkey dung. The one thing nobody was afraid to say is that the team as a whole is immature, lacks discipline, and (most importantly) just isn't very good.
So how can they right the ship? This writer is a fan of Drummond, Jackson and various other Piston players that weren't mentioned, but perhaps one of them needs to be traded even though this writer would hate to see them go. Perhaps Henry Ellenson and Michael Gbinjie (both good players who bring a lot to the table) could play more. Some have suggested a coaching change. Whatever they do, this writer will be watching and listening, because even though they are bad, he's still a Piston fan first and foremost.
Unitil next time...
Friday, April 21, 2017
10 Questions For Women
Over the years, the writer has learned quite a bit about women. In particular, The writer learned more than he cared to know about the "fairer sex" during his days as a janitor (Oh, the horrors this writer has seen). With that in mind, hear are ten questions for the "fairer sex".
1. Why are women called the fairer sex?
In this writer's experience, women are harsher and cheat more (in life in general) than men. Women simply don't play fair and don't care. And anyone who's ever cleaned a women's bathroom knows nothing 'fair' is going on in there. This leads in into several other questions, such as...
2. Why are the so many colors in the toilet bowl when women get done with it?
This writer saw red, yellow, purple, green, and other assorted colors when cleaning toilets in women's bathrooms. Are you pissing and crapping rainbows in there? This also leads to another burning question...
3. How hard is it to flush?
Seriously, ladies. If you can sit on the toilet, you can flush it as well. It shouldn't matter what those afformentioned colors are. Janitors shouldn't have to see them. Staying in the bathroom...
4. Why is there toilet paper on the floor?
You have two good options for it; the toilet or the trash can. Is that not enough options? As confounding as this is, a more disturbing question is...
5. Why is the toilet paper crusty?
Not sure what women do to make this happen, but the writer used to shudder when thinking about what the answer could be. It doesn't start off that way. And (to ask the previos question again), why is it on the floor?
6. Why do women live by a double standard when it comes to violence?
A woman can beat the crap out of a man and she's a champion of society who should be hailed as a hero. But if that man attempts to defend himself from the beating, he's a coward who likes to beat women. The man can be punished for being the victim, but the woman can't be punished for being the perpatrator. That's BS. But the double standards don't end there.
7. Why do women live by a double standard when it comes to sexual depictions?
As a videogame player, movie/anime watcher, and comic book/manga reader, this writer sees this a lot. Whenever there's a cute male character, women all drool and loose their minds (Edward vs. Jacob anyone). But when men see a cute female character, they're branded perverts and losers who can't get laid. You'll be drooling over Wonder Woman (or whoever) and someone will say, "You know she's not real, right?" This writer will remember that the next time a woman says Wolverine or the Joker are cute.
8. Why do women live by a double standard when it comes to attraction?
You ever notice how a women can talk about who they want to screw and face no penalty. They will even talk about underage boys like they are Chippendale dancers (If only this was a lie). But if a man talks about wanting a woman who isn't fat or ugly, he's a shallow dog. WTF?
9. Why do women wear revealing clothes, then get mad when men look?
This writer is an understanding individual. He understands that just because a woman is wearing a miniskirt, short shorts, or a low-cut top, that it does mean she's "asking for it", what ever that mean. This writer also understands that despite your intentions, straight men are going to look if they like what you're showing. Surely, you know this, right? Wear what you want, but don't be surprised if you get looked at.
10. Why do women claim sexual harrasment when there is none?
Women at work can claim sexual harrasment for anything. A man said hello to you? Sexual harrasment. A man shook your hand? Sexual harrasment. A man accidentally bumped into you while walking? Sexual harrasment. A man opened a door and a breeze blew in? Sexual harrasment? Enough is enough. Save the sexual harrasment claims for ACTUAL sexual harrasment.
This writer will elaborate further on some of these quetions at a later date, but this post is getting pretty long. He just wanted to ask some questions. Feel free to answer if you want.
Until next time...
1. Why are women called the fairer sex?
In this writer's experience, women are harsher and cheat more (in life in general) than men. Women simply don't play fair and don't care. And anyone who's ever cleaned a women's bathroom knows nothing 'fair' is going on in there. This leads in into several other questions, such as...
2. Why are the so many colors in the toilet bowl when women get done with it?
This writer saw red, yellow, purple, green, and other assorted colors when cleaning toilets in women's bathrooms. Are you pissing and crapping rainbows in there? This also leads to another burning question...
3. How hard is it to flush?
Seriously, ladies. If you can sit on the toilet, you can flush it as well. It shouldn't matter what those afformentioned colors are. Janitors shouldn't have to see them. Staying in the bathroom...
4. Why is there toilet paper on the floor?
You have two good options for it; the toilet or the trash can. Is that not enough options? As confounding as this is, a more disturbing question is...
5. Why is the toilet paper crusty?
Not sure what women do to make this happen, but the writer used to shudder when thinking about what the answer could be. It doesn't start off that way. And (to ask the previos question again), why is it on the floor?
6. Why do women live by a double standard when it comes to violence?
A woman can beat the crap out of a man and she's a champion of society who should be hailed as a hero. But if that man attempts to defend himself from the beating, he's a coward who likes to beat women. The man can be punished for being the victim, but the woman can't be punished for being the perpatrator. That's BS. But the double standards don't end there.
7. Why do women live by a double standard when it comes to sexual depictions?
As a videogame player, movie/anime watcher, and comic book/manga reader, this writer sees this a lot. Whenever there's a cute male character, women all drool and loose their minds (Edward vs. Jacob anyone). But when men see a cute female character, they're branded perverts and losers who can't get laid. You'll be drooling over Wonder Woman (or whoever) and someone will say, "You know she's not real, right?" This writer will remember that the next time a woman says Wolverine or the Joker are cute.
8. Why do women live by a double standard when it comes to attraction?
You ever notice how a women can talk about who they want to screw and face no penalty. They will even talk about underage boys like they are Chippendale dancers (If only this was a lie). But if a man talks about wanting a woman who isn't fat or ugly, he's a shallow dog. WTF?
9. Why do women wear revealing clothes, then get mad when men look?
This writer is an understanding individual. He understands that just because a woman is wearing a miniskirt, short shorts, or a low-cut top, that it does mean she's "asking for it", what ever that mean. This writer also understands that despite your intentions, straight men are going to look if they like what you're showing. Surely, you know this, right? Wear what you want, but don't be surprised if you get looked at.
10. Why do women claim sexual harrasment when there is none?
Women at work can claim sexual harrasment for anything. A man said hello to you? Sexual harrasment. A man shook your hand? Sexual harrasment. A man accidentally bumped into you while walking? Sexual harrasment. A man opened a door and a breeze blew in? Sexual harrasment? Enough is enough. Save the sexual harrasment claims for ACTUAL sexual harrasment.
This writer will elaborate further on some of these quetions at a later date, but this post is getting pretty long. He just wanted to ask some questions. Feel free to answer if you want.
Until next time...
Friday, March 24, 2017
Can Black America Recover Pt. 2
It said that you said solve a problem without finding out what caused the the problem. This is true. This is what makes science so great. You look at a problem and break it down (to the cellular level if you must) to find what's causing the problem. This is how Black America can recover. Look at your communities, find the problems, and remove them.
These days, Black America's biggest problem stems from relying too much on whites to do things for you (the cellular level problem, if you will). If whites decided that they didn't want to hire Blacks anymore, Blacks wouldn't have jobs. If whites decided not to sell food to Blacks, they'd starve. Simply put, if whites chose to simply stop doing things for Blacks in America, Blacks would simply cry, beg, and die out. This, is you can deduce, is an extremely dangerous position to be in, because you'll die simply because you chose to rely somebody else and not do these things for yourself. This is especially true if (as some Blacks have claimed) whites only only wake up to think of ways to destroy.
Okay, let's go with the logic that that is true. Let's just say that whites really do try to come up with new ways to kill you. Why on Earth would you want to rely on people like that? It doesn't make sense. Wouldn't you want to build yourself up to where you can survive if these people just up and said, "screw it. We're not going to hire you or feed you anymore." In fact, considering what this writer has seen in the media, on social media, and in real life, that day isn't far off. Some people are just throwing their hands in the air and saying, "Yeah, I'm a racist. So what?" Simply put, whites are getting tired of Blacks and Blacks are in more trouble than they realize.
To this day, places called sundown towns and the concepty of white flight exist. Sundown towns are basically places where you'd better not be caught after dark if you're Black. White flight is when you move into a neighborhood, whites move out as fast as they can. This should tell you that despite all that talk you here about a Kumbaya society, whites (obviously not all, but in general) don't want you around. These things couldn't be condoned or even exist if this wasn't the case.
So how do you counter sundown towns and white flight? Simply build up and maintain your own communities to the point where you won't even want to go to these other communities. That will completely eliminate all risk associated with trying to live or navigate safely through these areas. Start Black businesses and recreate the Black economy and your neighborhoods will be strong and self-sufficient with or without white intervention. It worked before the 1960's, so
And finally, get feminism out of the Black household. In white households, it makes things fair and balanced, but in Black household it destroys the family. This is bcause (as mentioned in a previous post) feminism amongst Blacks turned the women against a man who didn't having the ability or desire to oppress her, which results in a broken home. Families are the most basic unit of a nation. Without strong, functional families, you can't possibly recover from your plight.
In closing, Black America can recover, but it has to open its eyes. The only people who can save Blacks in America are Black Americans, because nobody else can relate to (or care) your struggle. No mythical white man is going to come from the sky and make things fair and just. Change won't come because you pray or beg hard enough. Change is made with your own hands, because while God is real, he won't help people who refuse to take that first.
On a side note, please don't make mistake this for preaching division, because this isn't Fox News or MSNBC. It's simply telling people to prepare for the division that's coming (and it is coming, make no mistake). It started taking shape during the Obama years and it's only cranked into overdrive in Trump's first three months. When it happens, if Blacks aren't prepared, they'll be left cold, alone, and hungry. That's if they're lucky.
These days, Black America's biggest problem stems from relying too much on whites to do things for you (the cellular level problem, if you will). If whites decided that they didn't want to hire Blacks anymore, Blacks wouldn't have jobs. If whites decided not to sell food to Blacks, they'd starve. Simply put, if whites chose to simply stop doing things for Blacks in America, Blacks would simply cry, beg, and die out. This, is you can deduce, is an extremely dangerous position to be in, because you'll die simply because you chose to rely somebody else and not do these things for yourself. This is especially true if (as some Blacks have claimed) whites only only wake up to think of ways to destroy.
Okay, let's go with the logic that that is true. Let's just say that whites really do try to come up with new ways to kill you. Why on Earth would you want to rely on people like that? It doesn't make sense. Wouldn't you want to build yourself up to where you can survive if these people just up and said, "screw it. We're not going to hire you or feed you anymore." In fact, considering what this writer has seen in the media, on social media, and in real life, that day isn't far off. Some people are just throwing their hands in the air and saying, "Yeah, I'm a racist. So what?" Simply put, whites are getting tired of Blacks and Blacks are in more trouble than they realize.
To this day, places called sundown towns and the concepty of white flight exist. Sundown towns are basically places where you'd better not be caught after dark if you're Black. White flight is when you move into a neighborhood, whites move out as fast as they can. This should tell you that despite all that talk you here about a Kumbaya society, whites (obviously not all, but in general) don't want you around. These things couldn't be condoned or even exist if this wasn't the case.
So how do you counter sundown towns and white flight? Simply build up and maintain your own communities to the point where you won't even want to go to these other communities. That will completely eliminate all risk associated with trying to live or navigate safely through these areas. Start Black businesses and recreate the Black economy and your neighborhoods will be strong and self-sufficient with or without white intervention. It worked before the 1960's, so
And finally, get feminism out of the Black household. In white households, it makes things fair and balanced, but in Black household it destroys the family. This is bcause (as mentioned in a previous post) feminism amongst Blacks turned the women against a man who didn't having the ability or desire to oppress her, which results in a broken home. Families are the most basic unit of a nation. Without strong, functional families, you can't possibly recover from your plight.
In closing, Black America can recover, but it has to open its eyes. The only people who can save Blacks in America are Black Americans, because nobody else can relate to (or care) your struggle. No mythical white man is going to come from the sky and make things fair and just. Change won't come because you pray or beg hard enough. Change is made with your own hands, because while God is real, he won't help people who refuse to take that first.
On a side note, please don't make mistake this for preaching division, because this isn't Fox News or MSNBC. It's simply telling people to prepare for the division that's coming (and it is coming, make no mistake). It started taking shape during the Obama years and it's only cranked into overdrive in Trump's first three months. When it happens, if Blacks aren't prepared, they'll be left cold, alone, and hungry. That's if they're lucky.
Sunday, March 5, 2017
Can Black America Recover?
In the last post, this writer said that Black America is in a dangerous position. That position is that they don't control their fate, but people who don't have their best interest in mind do. Living and dying at the whim of people that don't like you is quite the unenviable position. That being said, the question is whether or not the damage can be undone? Can Black America recover?
The answer is yes. As long as you still live and breath, it's not too late. It won't be easy and you may not live to see it, but what you do now can make things better for your future generations.
First, you must learn your history. There's a saying that you learn history so that you can avoid repeating it. This is true, as this writer has done history and has seen that America is going backwards. Read books and watch films and see how the people used to act and talk in the past. Now compare that to how people are acting and talking now. You see and hear how similar things are. Or ask a person that was actually there (like a parent or grandparent) if you're fortunate enough to still have such individuals in your life. This writer often hears from older Blacks that racism today is worse than it was in the sixties. That's a powerful statement coming from someone old enough to compare today with the Jim Crow era.
Also, you'll notice that everyone that Blacks considered to be allies gets ahead, yet Blacks continue to fall behind. Feminists (more on them in the future), Asians, Jews, Latinos, Arabs, and even gays have all gotten things at your expense by using your hard work. You partner with them, march and protest, they get what they want, then throw you away like garbage. You don't have to believe it. Just do the history.
Second, find a way to revive the Black economy. In the city where this writer resides, there is virtually no Black economy. Unless you need a haircut or want to eat some good BBQ ribs, Blacks may as well not even exist here (sadly, this isn't a joke). There are no Black factories, Black banks, or anything meaningful. Heck, there's not even a Black bike shop and a lot of Blacks ride bikes around here. That is a crying shame.
What's the point of saying all that? Simply put, you have to beg whites for things because you don't have these things and can't get them on your own. You don't have to worry about the white man not giving you a job when you own the companies. You don't have to worry about the white man keeping food from you if you run the supermarket. You don't have to worry about the white man miseducating your kids if you run the schools. You don't have to worry about the white man poisoning your water (looking at you Flint, Michigan) if you control the infrastructure. This writer could go on, but he believes the message has been received.
To wrap things up, Black empowerment isn't about hating whites or hating gays or any of that garbage that does nothing for you in the long run. It's about getting up, being accountable, taking charge, and controlling your own fate. Because when others control your fate, you're always going to be second-class. You don't have to settle for crumbs when you make the bread. Stay tuned for a part two.
Until next time...
The answer is yes. As long as you still live and breath, it's not too late. It won't be easy and you may not live to see it, but what you do now can make things better for your future generations.
First, you must learn your history. There's a saying that you learn history so that you can avoid repeating it. This is true, as this writer has done history and has seen that America is going backwards. Read books and watch films and see how the people used to act and talk in the past. Now compare that to how people are acting and talking now. You see and hear how similar things are. Or ask a person that was actually there (like a parent or grandparent) if you're fortunate enough to still have such individuals in your life. This writer often hears from older Blacks that racism today is worse than it was in the sixties. That's a powerful statement coming from someone old enough to compare today with the Jim Crow era.
Also, you'll notice that everyone that Blacks considered to be allies gets ahead, yet Blacks continue to fall behind. Feminists (more on them in the future), Asians, Jews, Latinos, Arabs, and even gays have all gotten things at your expense by using your hard work. You partner with them, march and protest, they get what they want, then throw you away like garbage. You don't have to believe it. Just do the history.
Second, find a way to revive the Black economy. In the city where this writer resides, there is virtually no Black economy. Unless you need a haircut or want to eat some good BBQ ribs, Blacks may as well not even exist here (sadly, this isn't a joke). There are no Black factories, Black banks, or anything meaningful. Heck, there's not even a Black bike shop and a lot of Blacks ride bikes around here. That is a crying shame.
What's the point of saying all that? Simply put, you have to beg whites for things because you don't have these things and can't get them on your own. You don't have to worry about the white man not giving you a job when you own the companies. You don't have to worry about the white man keeping food from you if you run the supermarket. You don't have to worry about the white man miseducating your kids if you run the schools. You don't have to worry about the white man poisoning your water (looking at you Flint, Michigan) if you control the infrastructure. This writer could go on, but he believes the message has been received.
To wrap things up, Black empowerment isn't about hating whites or hating gays or any of that garbage that does nothing for you in the long run. It's about getting up, being accountable, taking charge, and controlling your own fate. Because when others control your fate, you're always going to be second-class. You don't have to settle for crumbs when you make the bread. Stay tuned for a part two.
Until next time...
Sunday, February 26, 2017
The Fall of Black American Society
There was a time where Black Americans had it all. They had the highest marriage rate, self-sufficient town, and a strong economy. Simply put, Blacks didn't need whites because they knew interaction with whites usually meant death, so Blacks had to do for themselves (sundown towns still exist). Some black neighborhood were so prosperous that jealous, usually poor, whites had to destroy because they were white and N-words shouldn't have been able to live better than them (just look up the term 'Black Wallstreet' if you don't believe it). They were bending the rules or trying to hamstring others, but doing it fair and square. Blacks were living the American dream and were the template of how to be an American.
Then several things happened, mostly in the sixties and seventies. Drugs, feminism, and desegregation (yes, you read right) and other things were all mixed together in a deadly cocktail and fed to blacks. Like fools, Black American drank the cocktail without question, resulting in the black America you see today. One that is in a very dangerous position and is on the verge of death.
First, let's start off with perhaps the most alarming thing that was mentioned in the last paragraph; desegregation. You maybe asking, 'what do you mean desegregation was bad for blacks? Blacks now have opportunities they didn't have?' While this is true, looking back a the first paragraph, you come to realize that Blacks didn't need any of that stuff, because they were self-sufficient. Integration with white America killed the black American economy. Even the great Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. realized this after 'his dream' became a reality. Dr. King said, "I may have integrated my people into a burning house." That's right. Even he realized 'his dream' wasn't really a dream and that the great Malcolm X was right. With the black economy crushed, Blacks had no choice but to beg whites for jobs. A once independent people had to go to people that wanted to see them dead and beg for jobs. Try to make that make sense.
Feminism was the next step to destroy Black America. At the time when it caught fire, feminism was an issue for whites to sort out among themselves. White men were oppressing white women, so white women needed to fight back. Somewhere along the way, black women joined the cause and this caused the death of the Black family. What feminism did to Blacks was turn the woman against a man who didn't have the power or desire to oppress her, as was the case in white communities. Simply put, Black women had no reason to join the feminist movement, because it turned her against a man who didn't have the ability in any facet to hold her back. Behind the mantra 'I don't need a man' the black man was chased out of the home and gone was the Black family.
With the black man gone, the government stepped in with things like drugs and welfare to finish off the Black children. In most societies, the men are the builders and protectors. When a society's men are gone or in a position to not build and/or lead, that society is offically conquered. This is the state that Black America is in. They are a conquered people. The men are weak, the women are confused, and the children are blind sheep on their way to the slaughterhouse. It's a cycle of death the seems to have no escape.
Can the Black American be saved? Is the damge to great to be healed? Is resegregation the solution? This writer isn't sure about the answer to any of these questions, but if Blacks stay the course, they will definitely become extinct. But Blacks wouldn't be in this position if they had just learned 'no' every now and then.
Until next time...
Then several things happened, mostly in the sixties and seventies. Drugs, feminism, and desegregation (yes, you read right) and other things were all mixed together in a deadly cocktail and fed to blacks. Like fools, Black American drank the cocktail without question, resulting in the black America you see today. One that is in a very dangerous position and is on the verge of death.
First, let's start off with perhaps the most alarming thing that was mentioned in the last paragraph; desegregation. You maybe asking, 'what do you mean desegregation was bad for blacks? Blacks now have opportunities they didn't have?' While this is true, looking back a the first paragraph, you come to realize that Blacks didn't need any of that stuff, because they were self-sufficient. Integration with white America killed the black American economy. Even the great Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. realized this after 'his dream' became a reality. Dr. King said, "I may have integrated my people into a burning house." That's right. Even he realized 'his dream' wasn't really a dream and that the great Malcolm X was right. With the black economy crushed, Blacks had no choice but to beg whites for jobs. A once independent people had to go to people that wanted to see them dead and beg for jobs. Try to make that make sense.
Feminism was the next step to destroy Black America. At the time when it caught fire, feminism was an issue for whites to sort out among themselves. White men were oppressing white women, so white women needed to fight back. Somewhere along the way, black women joined the cause and this caused the death of the Black family. What feminism did to Blacks was turn the woman against a man who didn't have the power or desire to oppress her, as was the case in white communities. Simply put, Black women had no reason to join the feminist movement, because it turned her against a man who didn't have the ability in any facet to hold her back. Behind the mantra 'I don't need a man' the black man was chased out of the home and gone was the Black family.
With the black man gone, the government stepped in with things like drugs and welfare to finish off the Black children. In most societies, the men are the builders and protectors. When a society's men are gone or in a position to not build and/or lead, that society is offically conquered. This is the state that Black America is in. They are a conquered people. The men are weak, the women are confused, and the children are blind sheep on their way to the slaughterhouse. It's a cycle of death the seems to have no escape.
Can the Black American be saved? Is the damge to great to be healed? Is resegregation the solution? This writer isn't sure about the answer to any of these questions, but if Blacks stay the course, they will definitely become extinct. But Blacks wouldn't be in this position if they had just learned 'no' every now and then.
Until next time...
Saturday, February 4, 2017
The Problems From Rap
Rap music is a misunderstood art form. The beats are intoxicating. The rhymes are as slick as oil and as smooth as peanut butter. People all over the world don't just listen to rap, they try to actually rap. Like it or not, rap is a worldwide phenomenon that doesn't seem to be going anywhere.
Rap is also one of the greatest weapons against black American's, its own creators. Rap has caused blacks to accept the N-word to the point where it just means 'guy' or something . Instead of saying 'that guy over there', someone will say 'the N-word over there'. Or they may say 'what's up my N-word', instead of saying 'what's up, my friend'. Honestly, this writer doesn't want to be near most blacks because he doesn't want to hear the N-word tossed around so so casually by the very people it's meant to destroy.
Rappers that aren't black use rap as a convenient way to say the N-word without any backlash. The Teriyaki Boys, Machine gun Kelly, even John Cena (yeah, the pro wrestler) are among the non-black rappers this writer has dropped from his playlist because they used the N-word. It's gotten to the point where people that aren't black ask 'why can't I say it?' This writer's question is why do they want to say it so badly.
The damage that rap has done to black Americans isn't just limited to the embracing of a slur. It's been used as a deadly toxin to stymie the growth of blacks. Calling women the B-word, supporting the selling and use of drug, treating criminals like saints, and (backed by feminism) promoting single-mother households are among the evil that have been pushed onto blacks by this once-great music genre. The end result is that black America idolizes stupidity and is lead by idiots.
Now, there is rap that is good that doesn't degrade blacks. Will Smith comes to mind in this aspect. This writer has seen a lot a Mr. Smith's work and listened to a lot of his rap. Not once (at least to this writer's knowledge) has he uttered the N-word in any of his lyrics. Also, his raps don't degrade women, don't push selling and using drugs. He literally doesn't have a single negative lyric any any of his raps. Then you have gospel rappers such as John P. Kee and Winans Phase 2 (not sure if they're still around) who...well...rap about the gospel. Good, wholesome rap to balance out the bad.
The confusing thing to this writer is black seem to relate more to to bad rap than the good. Will Smith is called lame, while rappers who promote the destruction of the black race are 'real' and 'understand the black struggle'. Read that that again and ask yourself if that makes sense. Snoop Dogg can talk about killing N-words, screwing B-words, and doing drugs and he's 'keeping it real', while Will Smith does none of that and is called 'white'. That is insanity of the highest order.
In conclusion, rap wasn't always bad and still isn't all bad. It has, however, downgraded in quality and as result, downgrades the quality of the people who listen to it. As one of this writer favorite music genres, it makes him sad to see what has become of rap and its creators.
Until next time...
Rap is also one of the greatest weapons against black American's, its own creators. Rap has caused blacks to accept the N-word to the point where it just means 'guy' or something . Instead of saying 'that guy over there', someone will say 'the N-word over there'. Or they may say 'what's up my N-word', instead of saying 'what's up, my friend'. Honestly, this writer doesn't want to be near most blacks because he doesn't want to hear the N-word tossed around so so casually by the very people it's meant to destroy.
Rappers that aren't black use rap as a convenient way to say the N-word without any backlash. The Teriyaki Boys, Machine gun Kelly, even John Cena (yeah, the pro wrestler) are among the non-black rappers this writer has dropped from his playlist because they used the N-word. It's gotten to the point where people that aren't black ask 'why can't I say it?' This writer's question is why do they want to say it so badly.
The damage that rap has done to black Americans isn't just limited to the embracing of a slur. It's been used as a deadly toxin to stymie the growth of blacks. Calling women the B-word, supporting the selling and use of drug, treating criminals like saints, and (backed by feminism) promoting single-mother households are among the evil that have been pushed onto blacks by this once-great music genre. The end result is that black America idolizes stupidity and is lead by idiots.
Now, there is rap that is good that doesn't degrade blacks. Will Smith comes to mind in this aspect. This writer has seen a lot a Mr. Smith's work and listened to a lot of his rap. Not once (at least to this writer's knowledge) has he uttered the N-word in any of his lyrics. Also, his raps don't degrade women, don't push selling and using drugs. He literally doesn't have a single negative lyric any any of his raps. Then you have gospel rappers such as John P. Kee and Winans Phase 2 (not sure if they're still around) who...well...rap about the gospel. Good, wholesome rap to balance out the bad.
The confusing thing to this writer is black seem to relate more to to bad rap than the good. Will Smith is called lame, while rappers who promote the destruction of the black race are 'real' and 'understand the black struggle'. Read that that again and ask yourself if that makes sense. Snoop Dogg can talk about killing N-words, screwing B-words, and doing drugs and he's 'keeping it real', while Will Smith does none of that and is called 'white'. That is insanity of the highest order.
In conclusion, rap wasn't always bad and still isn't all bad. It has, however, downgraded in quality and as result, downgrades the quality of the people who listen to it. As one of this writer favorite music genres, it makes him sad to see what has become of rap and its creators.
Until next time...
Sunday, January 15, 2017
Feminism
To this writer, feminism is a lot like communism. Like communism, feminism at its core isn't a bad thing. Equal pay, equal rights, every opportunities, pro-choice, being indepenent, all these things are good. However, like communism, the problem isn't the concept, but the execution.
Women got every thing they wanted out of feminism, but feminists are still insisting they didn't. The pay is equal, rights are equal, they have the choice of whether or not they want an abortion, the courts, media, and general public lean towards women. Inspite of all this and more, feminists force feed a BS agenda down America's throat. There's a reason why they are now being called feminazis.
This writer will say that unlike communism, feminism did what it was really meant to do. The whole plan was to make women superior (not equal, as they claim) and make men next to worthless. At the same time, they will still have you believe that women haven't made any progress and are still oppressed in America, which is total BS and a flat-out lie. Just look at the Middle East. That is a place where feminists can really do some good.
The end result is that feminism has created a double standard that's borderline dangerous. Women can do a lot of things men can't. Women can abuse their kids, kill their husbands, sleep with young boys, and other assorted crimes, suffering lesser penalties than men or no penalty at all if they have a good enough excuse. Don't believe it. There is a woman who slept with a rapper known as Chief Keef when he was seventeen and had his baby. Did she go to jail like a man would have? No. She put him on child support. That's right. A woman in here mid-thirties slept with what was a teenager at the time of the act and he (not she) was punished. Men could never do something so detestable. Yet feminists will have you believe the law is against women.
Another crime women can get away with that feminists fully support is claiming false rapes. A woman can go into court, lie to a judge and jury about being raped, and ruin an innocent (possibly) man's life (usually with no proof). When (or if) she's found to be lying, she faces no penalty, while the man's life is left in shambles. Free perjury for all (if you're a woman) and feminists support crap like this.
Having to accept garbage like this has a negative effect on young boys. Boys see this stuff (and sometimes go through it) and learn to hate the fact that they are males. This is because they start to think they what they think and feel doesn't matter just because they were born with a penis. The end result is they grow up to be weak men who actually become as worthless as the feminists say. That's the real mission of modern feminism. It's not to build up the women, but to destroy men while they are still boys.
Well, let's wrap this up. The feminsts are right. Things are unequal in America. However things are heavily slanted in their favor, yet they'll have you believe that men still have some unseen advantage that's holding them back. The truth is there's not a better time woman than now and no better place than America. Open your eyes and ears and see and hear the BS, America. You're being deceived by extremists.
Until next time...
Women got every thing they wanted out of feminism, but feminists are still insisting they didn't. The pay is equal, rights are equal, they have the choice of whether or not they want an abortion, the courts, media, and general public lean towards women. Inspite of all this and more, feminists force feed a BS agenda down America's throat. There's a reason why they are now being called feminazis.
This writer will say that unlike communism, feminism did what it was really meant to do. The whole plan was to make women superior (not equal, as they claim) and make men next to worthless. At the same time, they will still have you believe that women haven't made any progress and are still oppressed in America, which is total BS and a flat-out lie. Just look at the Middle East. That is a place where feminists can really do some good.
The end result is that feminism has created a double standard that's borderline dangerous. Women can do a lot of things men can't. Women can abuse their kids, kill their husbands, sleep with young boys, and other assorted crimes, suffering lesser penalties than men or no penalty at all if they have a good enough excuse. Don't believe it. There is a woman who slept with a rapper known as Chief Keef when he was seventeen and had his baby. Did she go to jail like a man would have? No. She put him on child support. That's right. A woman in here mid-thirties slept with what was a teenager at the time of the act and he (not she) was punished. Men could never do something so detestable. Yet feminists will have you believe the law is against women.
Another crime women can get away with that feminists fully support is claiming false rapes. A woman can go into court, lie to a judge and jury about being raped, and ruin an innocent (possibly) man's life (usually with no proof). When (or if) she's found to be lying, she faces no penalty, while the man's life is left in shambles. Free perjury for all (if you're a woman) and feminists support crap like this.
Having to accept garbage like this has a negative effect on young boys. Boys see this stuff (and sometimes go through it) and learn to hate the fact that they are males. This is because they start to think they what they think and feel doesn't matter just because they were born with a penis. The end result is they grow up to be weak men who actually become as worthless as the feminists say. That's the real mission of modern feminism. It's not to build up the women, but to destroy men while they are still boys.
Well, let's wrap this up. The feminsts are right. Things are unequal in America. However things are heavily slanted in their favor, yet they'll have you believe that men still have some unseen advantage that's holding them back. The truth is there's not a better time woman than now and no better place than America. Open your eyes and ears and see and hear the BS, America. You're being deceived by extremists.
Until next time...
Friday, January 13, 2017
Remembering Obama
Well, it that time. America is in transition. In with Trump and out with Obama. There are some people who couldn't be happier, because President Obama had a "negative impact" on the nation. Some have even gone so far as to say he's the worst president ever. This writer has one question though. Was President Obama really the worst?
Yes, President Obama did some boneheaded things, but every president has. They're only human. Looking at his whole of work as a whole, what exactly makes him the worst? Did he start a war over a lie and run the American economy into the ground? No. If anything, he saved the economy that Bush the second seemed so determined to destroy. He went against his own advisors (looking at you Hillary Clinton) to kill Osama bin Laden, while Bush the second let him roam free. Yet people tried to give Bush the second credit. Bull. Stuff.
People say the Mr. Obama didn't keep a lot of promises. This is true, but he was hamstrung by Republicans the whole time. They openly said they wanted to sabotage his presidency, but Obama's critics conveniently forget that. They wouldn't even let him pick his own Supreme Court justices. How are these people not in jail for treason?
Some say President Obama did nothing for them, but he did more than people will admit. Gays say he did nothing when hemade it some that gays could get married. He's done more for gays than anything president in history, yet he's done nothing for gays. Give this writer a break.
Women, Latinos, and other demographics joined in on saying he's done nothing, but they all got something. The only people that didn't really get anything of note were Blacks (the demographic most solidly behind him). Under Obama, Blacks enjoyed 20% unemployment and being shot by police and random people who just felt like shooting a Black person, and (this writer's personal favorite) told to stop eating Popeye's Chicken. That's right. Of all Americans, Blacks (his biggest supporters) are the only people who got nothing but insults, joblessness, and death from him. If nothing else, that is blind loyalty.
Then you have the racists pushing the idea of a race war. "The N-words are gonna do to us what we've done to them," a youtuber said in response to Obama's victory in 2008. Then you have people like Dylan Roof, who drove hundreds of miles out of his way just to shoot up Blacks in a church.
This doesn't include the personal insults that the Obama family took (gracefully, this writer might add). He had to sit back while watch he daughters be sexualized and his while wife receive death threats be called an ape and Moo-chelle. Personally, if this writer were him, the Secret Service would have been paying some visits and busting some heads. Just saying. Speaking of the Secret Service, remember when a man hopped the White House fence with guns and didn't get shot to death. Even his own 'bodyguards' were against him.
They are a lot of things this writer didn't have time to get to (perhaps in a potential part 2). This writer will remember him as a good president. Not a great one, not a bad one, but a good one. A president who gave stuff to the people, only to have those people slap him in the face. Finally, he was a president who turned his back on his biggest supporters, while catering to people that hated his guts. Looking at his whole body of work, this writer can't seriously call him the worst.
Until next time...
Yes, President Obama did some boneheaded things, but every president has. They're only human. Looking at his whole of work as a whole, what exactly makes him the worst? Did he start a war over a lie and run the American economy into the ground? No. If anything, he saved the economy that Bush the second seemed so determined to destroy. He went against his own advisors (looking at you Hillary Clinton) to kill Osama bin Laden, while Bush the second let him roam free. Yet people tried to give Bush the second credit. Bull. Stuff.
People say the Mr. Obama didn't keep a lot of promises. This is true, but he was hamstrung by Republicans the whole time. They openly said they wanted to sabotage his presidency, but Obama's critics conveniently forget that. They wouldn't even let him pick his own Supreme Court justices. How are these people not in jail for treason?
Some say President Obama did nothing for them, but he did more than people will admit. Gays say he did nothing when hemade it some that gays could get married. He's done more for gays than anything president in history, yet he's done nothing for gays. Give this writer a break.
Women, Latinos, and other demographics joined in on saying he's done nothing, but they all got something. The only people that didn't really get anything of note were Blacks (the demographic most solidly behind him). Under Obama, Blacks enjoyed 20% unemployment and being shot by police and random people who just felt like shooting a Black person, and (this writer's personal favorite) told to stop eating Popeye's Chicken. That's right. Of all Americans, Blacks (his biggest supporters) are the only people who got nothing but insults, joblessness, and death from him. If nothing else, that is blind loyalty.
Then you have the racists pushing the idea of a race war. "The N-words are gonna do to us what we've done to them," a youtuber said in response to Obama's victory in 2008. Then you have people like Dylan Roof, who drove hundreds of miles out of his way just to shoot up Blacks in a church.
This doesn't include the personal insults that the Obama family took (gracefully, this writer might add). He had to sit back while watch he daughters be sexualized and his while wife receive death threats be called an ape and Moo-chelle. Personally, if this writer were him, the Secret Service would have been paying some visits and busting some heads. Just saying. Speaking of the Secret Service, remember when a man hopped the White House fence with guns and didn't get shot to death. Even his own 'bodyguards' were against him.
They are a lot of things this writer didn't have time to get to (perhaps in a potential part 2). This writer will remember him as a good president. Not a great one, not a bad one, but a good one. A president who gave stuff to the people, only to have those people slap him in the face. Finally, he was a president who turned his back on his biggest supporters, while catering to people that hated his guts. Looking at his whole body of work, this writer can't seriously call him the worst.
Until next time...
Sunday, January 8, 2017
Violence Solves Nothing
This writer has stated in past post how he had to fight during his childhood. All the way up through fourth grade, this writer was constantly getting in fights, usually through no fault of his own. For those four years, this writer had to fight enemies, friends, family, strangers, big people, small people, and even girls. After a two-year break from fighting (by going to private school), the writer returned to public school and the fights started up again almost immediately. Honestly, it's a wonder how he grew up to be an adult with a (fairly) stable mind after surviving (and this writer means SURVIVING) being targeted by someone on a near weekly basis.
At the end of every fight, this writer was consistently told, "Violence solves nothing." However, for this writer, violence solved everything. It had to, because running away, telling adults, and trying to talk it out never did.
This writer remembers in sixth grade, a fourth grader followed him home and through rocks at him for a week. This writer did his best Gandhi impersonation and took it. Talking only made the boy tell this writer to shut up and kiss his ass (this is a fourth grader, folks. That's public school for you). Seeing it wasn't going to end unless he it, this writer brought his own rocks to the party and a stick to boot as well. Not surprisingly, this resolved the issue quickly and this writer never heard from him again.
Then, there was a situation at a family reunion. This writer was eleven or twelve at the time. A distant relative kept assaulting this writer. This writer tried walking away and asking him to stop, but the assault continued. Everyone saw it and did nothing (all family members and mostly adults, mind you) and they saw this writer wasn't having fun. Reluctantly, this writer picked up a phone cord and sliced his face open with it. This sent him scrambling for the adults. Fortunately, the adults realized this writer wasn't the bad guy, but why did it have to get that far before they did anything. They watched this writer exhaust all his options until violence was all he had left.
Barring this writer's own personal examples. just open a history book and see how often a situation was solved through peaceful means. World War 2 wasn't fought with water guns and water balloons (and Hitler wasn't in a talking mood). It was fought with guns, grenades, planes, and bombs. Heck, open the Bible (which pacifists live by) and see how violently people acted. The Israelites knew when it was time to stop praying and start whupping some ass (and they go out to battle with scriptures, but swords). Even Jesus Christ (the ultimate pacifist or so we're told) had a few disciples who would break a couple of heads when the need arose, because even he knew a good beating was the only solution sometimes.
Simply put, while we'd like to resolve things peacefully, that simply isn't always possible. Despite being told violence solves nothing, a look at the past (and the present and future for that matter) shows that violence solves quite a few things. The key is to accurately determine when violence is and isn't necessary. Overuse violence and you'll will up in jail. Underutilize it and you'll always be a victim. Make sure it's a last resort, but don't take it off the table altogether
Until next time...
At the end of every fight, this writer was consistently told, "Violence solves nothing." However, for this writer, violence solved everything. It had to, because running away, telling adults, and trying to talk it out never did.
This writer remembers in sixth grade, a fourth grader followed him home and through rocks at him for a week. This writer did his best Gandhi impersonation and took it. Talking only made the boy tell this writer to shut up and kiss his ass (this is a fourth grader, folks. That's public school for you). Seeing it wasn't going to end unless he it, this writer brought his own rocks to the party and a stick to boot as well. Not surprisingly, this resolved the issue quickly and this writer never heard from him again.
Then, there was a situation at a family reunion. This writer was eleven or twelve at the time. A distant relative kept assaulting this writer. This writer tried walking away and asking him to stop, but the assault continued. Everyone saw it and did nothing (all family members and mostly adults, mind you) and they saw this writer wasn't having fun. Reluctantly, this writer picked up a phone cord and sliced his face open with it. This sent him scrambling for the adults. Fortunately, the adults realized this writer wasn't the bad guy, but why did it have to get that far before they did anything. They watched this writer exhaust all his options until violence was all he had left.
Barring this writer's own personal examples. just open a history book and see how often a situation was solved through peaceful means. World War 2 wasn't fought with water guns and water balloons (and Hitler wasn't in a talking mood). It was fought with guns, grenades, planes, and bombs. Heck, open the Bible (which pacifists live by) and see how violently people acted. The Israelites knew when it was time to stop praying and start whupping some ass (and they go out to battle with scriptures, but swords). Even Jesus Christ (the ultimate pacifist or so we're told) had a few disciples who would break a couple of heads when the need arose, because even he knew a good beating was the only solution sometimes.
Simply put, while we'd like to resolve things peacefully, that simply isn't always possible. Despite being told violence solves nothing, a look at the past (and the present and future for that matter) shows that violence solves quite a few things. The key is to accurately determine when violence is and isn't necessary. Overuse violence and you'll will up in jail. Underutilize it and you'll always be a victim. Make sure it's a last resort, but don't take it off the table altogether
Until next time...
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