Good friends are hard to find. Everybody knows that. And because they're so hard, you don't get many of them. Most people can go their whole life and never find one.
Bad friends, on the other hand, are easy to find. Heck, you'll probably make more bad friends than bitter enemies. Here are seven friends to shed if they are in your flock or avoid if they're not.
1. The Time Leech
This will be brief, as a previous post already goes into detail about "friends" like this. Basically, a time leech is someone who thinks you should hang out with them, no matter what you may have going on in your life. You have to put them first and you have to hang out with them whenever THEY are ready. And they always make you do stupid stuff, just for the sake of wasting your time. Make sure YOU control the time when you see them and you'll be fine.
2. The Butthole
The thing about the butthole is the fact that he's a butthole. It's that you are associated with him. You may not co-sign everything he does, but you may end up taking the fall for something he does. The only thing worse than a bitter enemy is a friend who will get you caught up in some bullshit. Avoid them unless you're extremely desperate (near suicidal, really) for friends.
3. The I-Think-I-Know-It-All
This "friend" wants you to hear how informed or intelligent they are. The thing is, they often talk about things you don't care about, so they come off as annoying instead. This is often coupled with them telling you how little you know about anything, in an attempt to make you feel stupid or make themselves feel smart. You don't need that in your life.
4. The "You Need Me" Guy
A variation of the Time Leech, these "friends" will force their presence on you. Their logic is that without them, you enjoy their company so much, that you would be lonely without them. That, as you may have surmised, in BS. This is obviously a lie they craft for themselves to feel good about being downright invasive at times.
5. The Person Who Won't Shut Up
These are those "friends" who don't seem to need to breath in between statements. They just talk and talk and talk, not stopping to breathing or giving you a chance to respond to anything they say. If you don't force your two cents in, they will NEVER stop talking. It's even worse when you're trying to be alone or enjoy some peace and quiet. So annoying.
6. The Projector
These "friends" are always looking to put THEIR flaws and problems on someone else in an attempt to feel good about themselves. These individuals often have sad, pathetic lives and it's always somebody else's fault. They can't get a girlfriend, it's the woman's fault. They can't get a job, it's the employer's fault. They can't get a candy bar, it's the store's fault. Naturally, they will try to put some of these things off on you as well, which is meant to stress you and make them feel better about themselves. The Either avoid them or take them to a good therapist.
7. The Downtalker
These "friends" are losers who aren't living the life they want or think they deserve and need someone to feel like they are better than. That's where you come in. These people will try to talk you out of getting ahead in life with the hope that you're dumb enough to listen. These people NEED you to feel bad about wanting to grow, trying to bring you down if you feel good and discourage your advancement. This is coupled by them trying to brag about their own achievements. Put another way, their greatest achievement is making sure you don't achieve anything. This is dangerous for fairly obvious reasons. Ditch 'em.
And those are the seven types of people you should to trim out of your circle. You want friends that you actually want to see you do better, perhaps even helping you get to where you want or need to go. You don't need human obstacles who only live impede your progress and/or stress you out. As this writer has said before, you only get so much time in this world. Do you really want to waste it on people you don't like?
Until next time...
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